
Lying is something that most of us are very adept at. Some might lie with ease, in ways big and small, to strangers,friends, and loved ones.
Lying can be defense mechanism that helps people to avoid vulnerability by not revealing their true selves to others. Opening up risks rejection, criticism, or disappointment, which can be unbearable for someone deeply insecure. When a lie leads to rejection, it provides a reason for it.
Sometimes people reenact early life experiences by behaving in certain ways. Lying and causing others to check on or distrust them might be an unconscious pattern repeated due to past experiences. This indicates they haven't learned to relate to others differently. For example, if they faced challenges like violent caregivers during upbringing, they might have created their own world, often lying to themselves or developing a habit of lying to others.
People often lie to avoid hurting or letting someone down. Some find it extremely hard to cope with the feelings of disappointing others. This is a selfish reason, as it focuses on protecting oneself from facing the consequences of the disappointment. The person being lied to usually prefers to know the truth, no matter what it is.
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